3 Simple Ways to Discover What You REALLY Want to Do
Ever since I can remember, I wanted to be a career women. I didn’t dream of a big house, kids and a husband – I had other plans. I wanted the top floor office, the pencil skirt and the briefcase. I wanted to fulfill a purpose every day, other than what was biologically set out for me.
But somewhere between playing with Barbie dolls and becoming a truly angsty teen, I never found what I wanted to do with my career. I figured, it would just come to me.
But it didn’t.
I went to public school, where we weren’t really pushed to think about life outside of high school. As long as I applied for uni degrees, they were happy.
I remember filling out one of those ‘find your career’ surveys in year 10. I was told I’d be great at either Public Relations or Copywriting. Both were careers I had NEVER heard of before.
So, I turned to my teacher and asked her what they were. She looked at my piece of paper for a moment, at first, trying to explain, she admitted she had no idea.
This was back before Google on our phones in our pockets. So once the class was over, I didn’t really think about it.
And so, I continued to float and make no serious decision about my apparently important career.
Suddenly, closer to 30 than 20, I found myself passionless. It hit me, I had never made a defining decision in my career. I had just floated along, taking every opportunity that came my way. Which wasn’t a bad thing. I just never really stopped to consider what I REALLY wanted to do.
So I took a step back to reassess where I was going, and if I was right for me.
3 Simple Ways to Discover What You REALLY Want To Do
1. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Consider what you want in your life. Where do you want to live? What do you want to be doing with your time? How does a day in your life look? What are your core values?
List everything that comes to you. Does anything stand out?
Do you see yourself living in another country? Maybe you should be an English teacher. Or do you really just want to make a difference? You should definitely work for a not-for-profit then. Or do you see yourself living in a small coastal town using your hands and creating? Maybe you should be a freelance photographer or designer.
What you want in your life and the core values that drive you to live your best life are an integral part of figuring out what you REALLY want to do.
2. Take a step back and assess what you have now
If you already have a job but you're just not happy, take a step back and start questioning everything.
Make note of what’s working and what’s not working in your current role. What do you enjoy doing? What do you hate? Note your strengths, your weaknesses and what you'd like to learn more of.
This should give you a better idea of what you want to do.
Remember, you should always be challenged in a job. If you're not learning, you're not growing and it's time to move on. This could be the reason you're feeling unsatisfied.
3. What do you do in your spare time?
Often the answer is right in front of you.
If you spend all your time pinning wedding images, maybe you should be a wedding planner or a manager of a wedding venue. If reading through Real Living magazine is more your thing, then maybe you should be a stylist or a furniture designer. If you’re constantly pulling things apart only to put them together again, maybe you should be an engineer. Or if you find yourself drinking a bottle of wine to yourself every night, maybe you should get into the wine making business or train up as a sommelier.
It’s hard to see when it’s just something you do in your spare time. But if you look hard enough, you’ll find a few things that stand out. Anything is possible these days. All you need is a few hundred dollars to create your website, and you’ve got yourself a business. No degree necessary.
If you’ve ended up with multiple career options that could work for you, then don’t worry. The world’s changed, you don’t have to do one thing anymore. So if you’re passionate about multiple things, read this book and find a way to create a career that works for you.
If you’re feeling a little reluctant to jump right into a new career, then start talking to people who’ve done it before.
Jump on LinkedIn and start searching for businesses you’d love to work for. Find someone who works within that business and message them directly. You’d be surprised how willing people are to help you out.
Tell them that you’re looking to get into the industry and would love some insider information before taking the plunge. You can keep the conversation digital, or if you want to build a real relationship, invite them out for a drink, your treat.
Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure Ever Will
I don't know about you, but making decisions is hard. I've always struggled with it.
Recently, I realised that the only thing holding me back is self doubt. It stops me from making any decisions. Over the years, it's stopped me from being a writer, from promoting my business and moving into design. Self doubt has held me back from growing any bigger than where I am now.
If you learn anything from me, then let it be this – don't let self doubt get in your way. Find a passion and a purpose, and just keep moving.
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