Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda: How to make decisions you won't regret
I'm not sure about you, but I'm not the best decision maker. And when I make a decision I'm not too sure about, I dwell. I dwell so much, I get angry in my own head, and have a little tiff. It goes something like this:
'Oh dog, I hope that's the right decision... blerrrg! Blerrrrrg. Blerrg.'
'Common brain. Get yo shit together. The decision has been made, let's just move on.'
'Yeah, you're right. Ok. Moving on...' Silence. 'But, oh dog...'
Where is all this coming from? Well, a few month back, I moved my beloved space on the interwebs across to Squarespace. I thought, hell, it'll give me more options with website design since I don't know a whole lot of coding. Now, I'm regretting that decision and wishing I had just simply stayed with Wordpress. Let's face it, Wordpress was made for blogging and has been owning that niche for many years now.
I've found my want/need to blog has diminished since I made the move. And I surprisingly feel really restricted when it comes to design options. I'm pretty overwhelmed with how much this change of scenery has affected my love of blogging. So, I had a look out there for Wordpress themes, and within 5 minutes of searching I found quite a few I loved. And now, I must make, yet another decision. Do I move everything back?
It's obvious I did. And I'm not regretting the decision. In the process of trying to figure out what to do, I got to thinking about decision making. I found, when making a decision, there are usually three options. 1. Play it safe, 2. follow what everyone else are doing, or 3. take a risk. I don't know about you, but the latter sounds like the most satisfying option.
SO, HERE ARE A FEW TIPS ON MAKING DECISIONS WITHOUT THE REGRET FACTOR.
1 – Get used to the idea of taking risks. A great way to become more open to being a risk taker is by asking yourself, 'what's the worst thing that can happen'. Often, it's not that bad.
2 – Why are you making this decision? Think about the reasons this decision is in your life, and why you need to make it. If the answer is to move forward, to reach your dream or life goal, then, you should probably go for it.
3 – Change is inevitable. When making a decision, you need to open yourself up to change. Assess your life at the moment. If you're not ready for change, then maybe you're not ready to make this big decision.
4 – Think about the long term. If all else fails, and you're still feeling uneasy about making a big decision, think about where this decision could take you.
And always remember this: "What if I fail, oh my darling, what if you fly?"
Do you struggle to make decisions? What helps you?